There is a constant fight against wanting to do anything that’ll take you out of the status quo. Most of us live our lives in our current situation. It’s not too warm or cold. There’s no giant animal lurking behind the bushes in the front yard of our townhouses we have to look out for when we walk the dog. We’re not having to talk our way out of stressful situations that could result in real harm. Our current situation is good. No worries.
Being in a “good” situation isn’t good though. We get stagnant. We don’t want to do anything potentially dangerous in order to set ourselves up better in the future. Sometimes we don’t notice it. I don’t want to sit and write a thousand word post because somewhere deep down I’m scared. I could be scared of success or critics or something else I can’t really put my finger on. So instead of buckling down and writing for an hour I check the box by putting in my 15 minutes and pumping out 400 words. That next 600 words feels so gosh darn dangerous I don’t want to do it even though this practice will only result in good things in the end.
I find myself in the danger-avoidance rut often. Heck, I’m deep into one right now. I don’t want to do anything outside of the bare minimum of some arbitrary goals I’ve set up for myself. It’s scary. It’s scary to spend an extra 20 minutes searching my brain for words instead of watching the Nats where I’m safely consuming media on my couch. After what feels like weeks I finally caught myself.
What do you do to get yourself out of this funk?
For me, the best thing I can do is push myself to do one little thing I don’t want to do when I don’t have to do it. That could be something like going for a run — it’s difficult, I don’t want to do it and it’s not on my to-do list so there isn’t that satisfaction of checking something off. Or it could be taking a cold shower. I am choosing to put myself in a “dangerous” situation. When I come out on the other side I’m stronger for it and I sense that there was nothing to fear to begin with.
Once I’m no longer afraid I can start tackling some of those dangerous tasks I’ve been putting off like my course. I may have to run 50 miles in order to get it done but done is the key word. Figure out the fear is unwarranted then conquer the task.